From sex on the first date to making him wait ten months – how long do YOU wait before bedding a partner?.

According to The Sun: How long do you wait before having sex?

The old rule of three dates is becoming a thing of the past: two-thirds of people admit to having sex on the first date.

However, not everyone is ready for such actions. One-third of respondents avoid intimacy on the first date, as a study by the dating app Happn shows. Often this is due to safety concerns or the fear of being seen as easy.

In five statements, the readers of 'The Sun' share their personal experiences.

• Some names have been changed.

NORA, 22, TEACHER – 10 MONTHS

Teacher Nora Tverag, 22, from Hendon, South London, waits at least ten months before having sex with a new partner.

She shares:

“People may call me old-fashioned, but I am not. I’m smart.”

By making a guy wait, I learn whether he is serious about me. My overall norm is at least ten months. Many consider this extreme, but by waiting so long, we really get to know each other. I have never slept with someone on the first date.

I have seen my friends do it but then end up feeling abandoned and upset. If a partner is willing to wait, it means he respects you — and sex will be better.

By sticking to my rule, I feel changes in the relationships. They try to show understanding, but then they start to get offended. This is a red flag for me — a sign that we are not meant to be. Some think I’m joking, others genuinely get offended.

The only time I broke my rule was with a guy I had been seeing from a distance for more than ten months. When we finally met for the weekend, we had been texting, calling, and building an emotional connection for almost a year.

I felt safe and respected myself — it made a huge difference. My rule protects me. By waiting, you can learn a lot about a person. If they really can’t wait, then he’s not my 'Mr. Right.'

CRAIG, 45, COMPANY DIRECTOR – 1 DATE

Company director Craig Ian McAlpine, 45, who is unmarried, does not like to wait.

He says:

“I don’t have time for endless first dates, so it’s important for me that there’s something between us — a good conversation, a bit of flirting. I can usually feel it right away.'

I can’t stand boring first dates. They seem like a waste of time. I enjoy the adrenaline of meeting new people, but I don’t want to communicate for too long before we meet.

Usually, I meet women through apps and get quite a bit of attention. The physical aspect is important to me, so if there’s chemistry, I like to develop it early on.

This often means sex on the first date, and that is also an important test for me. I want the woman to be sexy and confident. If that energy is not there from the start, there’s a high chance I won’t go on a second date.

I am also quite impatient. I follow my heart and intuition, so I don’t like to wait. Most of my best relationships have started with instant chemistry and great sex — as if we were inseparable from the first minute.

My horror stories? Girls who didn’t quite match their photos... or who got too tense without any encouragement from my side.”

MARIA, 27, FASHION DESIGNER – 1 DATE

Fashion designer Maria Georgia, 27, from Manchester, was single for five years before meeting her partner six months ago.

She says:

“I flirt, I’m open, confident, and I know what I want, so I don’t feel the need to wait, especially if I might not see them again.”

I’ve never used dating apps — I usually meet people face-to-face when I go out after work or while traveling. If I feel a spark, I’ll give my number or Instagram.

However, I value effort — a bit of flirty setup, dinner at a nice restaurant, or at their place.

I met my partner on Valentine's Day. My friend went home, and I stayed, hoping to bump into an attractive man — and I did.

Next week he booked a fancy Italian restaurant and cocktail bar — he even helped choose my outfit and underwear.

I like a man who takes the initiative.

On our date, we played pool and karaoke, and the chemistry was electric. I even called in sick to work to stay home all night.

Six months later, we are still together. For me, sexual chemistry on the first date is important. It’s not about when to have sex, but with whom. Waiting guarantees nothing. Be honest about what you want, and then no one gets hurt.”

KOFI, 35, PERSONAL TRAINER – 3 DATES

Personal trainer Kofi Johnson, 33, from Bristol, who is in a three-year relationship, prefers to wait.

He says:

“Women likely expect most men want to have sex on the first date — but I actually prefer to wait.”

I may be an exception to the rules, but if I really like someone, I don’t want to rush into it. I’d prefer to get to know them better first.

For me, the excitement lies in the anticipation and mystery. If I rush into sex, it usually fades quickly.

Of course, it’s enjoyable in the moment, but I often find myself regretting it later.

I usually wait about three dates before having sex — sometimes longer.

It really depends on the woman and our feelings.

There have been times when women are ready for sex on the first date, and they were surprised when I politely declined.

Some even laughed, assuming I was joking, then looked embarrassed when they realized it was not a joke.

But as the old saying goes:

“The best comes to those who wait.”

RUBY, 24, TRAVEL AGENT - 3 DATES

Travel agent Ruby Barnes, 24, from Oxford, says she modifies her rules depending on the person.

She shares:

“If I go on a date with someone, and I'm physically attracted to that person, I don't have a strict rule against sex on the first date.”

I need to feel safe and comfortable, to be honest and vulnerable, and for the other person to respect my boundaries if I decide to change my mind. That’s very important.

If I sense there’s potential for something more long-term, I usually take it slower.

It’s not about playing games or following a certain rule, but sometimes I’m naturally more cautious — probably because I think about the long-term.

In such situations, I usually stick to the three-date rule, just to strengthen the connection first.

It’s also to protect myself — I don’t want to sleep with someone I really like only to find out later they’re not interested.

I think women can become more emotionally attached.

At the moment, I’m going on one date every week, trying to find someone special, but I’m in no rush. I’ll remain single until I find the right person. I was in a relationship for nearly six years, so now I want to take a break and enjoy life.