Sex with a Younger Man: Why an Unexpected Problem Arose.

An Unexpected Situation During a Night of Love

According to The Sun: I remember how anxious I felt being with a tall, dark-haired, and attractive man. He looked amazing, and I was expecting an impressive night. But when we got undressed, everything went off the rails – I was trying to find a solution to our sexual situation.

Honestly, my partner was having trouble with his erection. I tried for a long time to 'revive' him, but it didn’t work.

Eventually, he confessed that he suffers from severe anxiety related to erections.

I remembered this situation after receiving a letter from a reader who experienced something similar with a younger partner.

I am a sex expert with The Sun, and in my column this week, I share my tips on improving sexual life and dealing with anxiety.

Reader's Question

Question: I am in a new relationship with a young man, and sex did not meet my expectations.

He is almost 20 years younger than me; I am 43, and he is 25.

I don’t know what awaits us in the future, but for now, I am trying to enjoy this moment.

We first had sex a few days ago, and honestly, the result did not impress me.

I was preparing for fireworks and passion, but instead felt like something was going wrong.

He had trouble maintaining an erection and kept softening. I felt ashamed, thinking maybe he didn’t find me attractive.

I never thought that a young guy would face such a problem. Then he pulled out Viagra and said, 'Problem solved!'

After that, we actually had good sex, but I couldn't shake off a slight disappointment. Does he really need a pill to feel attracted to me? How do I deal with this insecurity?

“He pulled out Viagra and said, ‘Problem solved!’”

Reader of The Sun

Georgie says: First of all, this has nothing to do with your attractiveness. Trust me, it’s usually the opposite.

There’s a common misconception that if a man can’t get or maintain an erection, it means he’s not attracted to his partner. This is absolutely not the case. Men of all ages can suffer from anxiety that leads to erectile issues. It’s often related to nerves rather than lack of desire.

Maybe he wanted so badly to please you that he was afraid of disappointing you.

The fact that he had the pill suggests that this is not the first time he’s faced this problem – he was just prepared. But this likely has nothing to do with your age.

In fact, many young men are attracted to older women precisely because of their confidence – both in bed and in life.

Young men may have stamina, but older women usually know what they want in a relationship and are not afraid to talk about it.

Tips for Improving Intimate Life

Here are some tips to make your relationship and sex more enjoyable:

• Show, don’t tell: Most men are attracted to older women for their confidence. Don’t be afraid to express your desires in bed.
• Stay calm: Don’t mock your partner if he is facing difficulties. Remain calm and supportive.
• Use lubricants: Older women may need more lubrication for comfortable sex due to decreased estrogen levels.
• Talk dirty: Communicate with your partner about your preferences – it will strengthen your intimate connection.
• Visit a doctor: If he continues to have erection issues after a few months, it might be worth consulting a specialist.

A survey among British men showed that nearly 60% avoid sex due to anxiety about their performance at various points in life.